In 1996, I was fortunate to have listened to a cassette tape,
yes I said cassette tape, created by Iyanla Vanzant that possessed this
title. A friend had purchased this tape
to assist her in understanding how a 10 year relationship had ended so
unexpectedly and abruptly. While listening to this tape, Iyanla encouraged the
listener to adapt a certain understanding that not all things are meant to last
forever, and that some come to us for other reasons. She went on to suggest
that some relationships, friendships and situations are only meant to be in our
lives for a particular season. And, in some of these instances, it may be to
help us through a situation, to offer some much needed information, to show us
our value, to illustrate unadulterated love, or for innumerable other reasons. Thus,
she expresses that some people come into our lives for a season, as they may
possess a specific purpose in supporting us or revealing something to us in a
way that only they could. And, alas, there are those who will last a lifetime.
And, those are the individuals who will be with us for the long haul and will
teach us and show us things during the duration of our time together.
As practitioners, we see people come to us sometimes wanting
to hold onto something/someone that may not be meant to be held onto anymore.
However, that is not a decision that we can make for anyone. We can only serve
in helping them to understand and manage the situation better. Yet, many times,
this type of wisdom is so helpful for people. Because when you are really able
to understand this concept, it makes life so much easier. Essentially, the
concept of this message is one that can help people discover acceptance and
serve as a segue in moving forward in their lives. Simultaneously, it can
assist with changing their perceptions and their overall lives.
So now when something doesn’t go the way I anticipated (i.e.
the job I didn’t get, the promotion that didn’t happen, the lay-off that
knocked me off my feet, or the proposal
that was never asked) , I find myself pondering the lesson of the situation and
really assessing whether I saw this coming before it occurred. And, after lots
of soul searching, I find myself just saying “thank you” for the experience,
the lesson and the knowledge I now possess to take into the next chapter of my
life. I say “thank you” that it wasn’t any worse and that I got out of the
situation in one piece. And, as I say “thank
you”, it confirms my belief that there are no failures, no mistakes, just
learning experiences and God’s love!
Be Blessed,
MM
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